There is often a struggle in measuring whether our default coping skills strengthen or weaken us. I came across the following this morning and thought it worthwhile to share:
IV, 3 Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere, either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble, does a man retire into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquility ; and I affirm that tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind.
Meditations of Marcus Aurelius
I am common. Standing on the shore gives me a sense of perspective unparalleled by all other efforts to grasp my place. But more importantly, I am considering the difference between turning within for the purposes of retreat versus reprieve. Are they the same? Is one less productive than the other? I also wonder what you do when you seek either. I wonder what thoughts MA refers to as bringing immediate tranquility. I welcome your reflections on these questions.